Sanity, Sanctification, Survival
While the behavior of some people is unexcusable, it does help to understand where that behavior comes from. It helps us not take that unexcusable behavior personally. In David Seamands book, Healing for Damaged Emotions, he says, by their fruit you will know them (Matthew 7:16), but by their roots you will understand them and not judge.

He goes on to remind us that “infirmities” means without strength. Infirmities are not sin. Jesus had infirmities. He was hungry, he was lonely, he was disappointed, he was scared, sad, depressed, and tempted, yet he did not sin in his weakness (infirmities).

Another revelation - the ungrateful servant might not have been ungrateful. He asked for more time to pay the debt but the Master gave him more than he asked for. The Master forgave the entire debt. He didn’t just extend the time to pay. The servant simply did not hear or comprehend that the Master gave him more than he asked for. Our perception of what others say and do is so discolored by our concept of life. It never occurred to the servant that he might receive more than he asked for.

Essential components of a healthy life – a sense of belonging, a sense of worth, and a sense of competence. You belong to God, you are worth the price of Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit provides you with all you need to live and work and relate.

When we look to others to fulfill these three components of a healthy life, we hurt people. Hurt people hurt people.